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为什么爸爸考不上清北?全国985大学有45所呢,为什么爸爸不能再努点力?
每次学拼音、做数学,爸爸总会有各种各样的情绪问题,要么发脾气,要么唉声叹气。明明他讲的和老师讲的不一样,还总抱怨我听不懂。对比班上其他同学脾气温柔还会讲题的家长,难免有点失望。
我上了小学以后,这种情况更明显了。经常在交流中流露出恨铁不成钢的神情,让我变得更加谨小慎微,战战兢兢,生怕做错了事惹他们不开心。
究竟应该降低期望值,接受焦虑的父母,还是继续持之以恒的感化他们?有没有有经验的同学一起交流一下。
以上抖个机灵,不要介意哈。
如果说非要给题主一点建议。那就是 less is more。欲速则不达。慢就是快。
一年级还太早,远没有到要这么焦虑比较的时候。每个孩子的发展阶段都有所不同,也许你的孩子会在6年级突然开学习的窍,也许他会在别的方面成为翘楚,这样都很好。
等一等孩子,给他提供安全稳定舒适的成长环境,包括心理环境,让他自由且积极的发展,永远抱有信心,相信自己的孩子,也相信你们夫妻自己。
下面这首诗,看起来有点鸡汤,但谁能说不无道理呢?
纽约的时区比加州早3个小时
New York is 3 hours ahead of California,
但加州的时间并没有变慢。
but it does not make California slow.
有人22岁毕业,
Someone graduated at the age of 22,
等了5年才找到好工作
but waited 5 years before securing a good job!
有人25岁当上CEO,
Someone became a CEO at 25,
却只活到50岁。
and died at 50.
也有人50岁当上CEO,
While another became a CEO at 50,
然后活到90岁。
and lived to 90 years.
有人单身,
Someone is still single,
有人已婚。
while someone else got married.
奥巴马55岁退休,
Obama retires at 55,
川普70岁当上总统。
but Trump starts at 70.
世上每个人都有自己的时区。
Absolutely everyone in this world works based>
有些人看似走在你前面,
People around you might seem to go ahead of you,
也有人看似走在你后面。
some might seem to be behind you.
但其实每个人在自己的时区,走着自己的路。
But everyone is running their own RACE, in their own TIME.
不用嫉妒或嘲笑。
Don’t envy them or mock them.
他们都在自己的时区,你也如此
They are in their TIME ZONE, and you are in yours!
生命不过就是等待时机,采取行动。
Life is about waiting for the right moment to act.
所以,放轻松。
So, RELAX.
谈不上落后。
You’re not LATE.
也无所谓超前。
You’re not EARLY.
在命运为你安排的时区里,一切都准时准点。
You are very much ON TIME, and in your TIME ZONE Destiny set up for you. |
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